writing

This is where I share my writing - poems, essays, and thoughts on life and how we can create something new and better in the world.

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Helen Dillon-Cottee

Stop being who you should be; start being who you are.

For 35 years, I lived my life being who I was supposed to be. Much of my ‘supposed to’s’ came from spending my formative years in the...

Helen Cottee

Learning to unlearn

My one wild and wonderful life is going to be spent on reform: of seeing where the 'forms' we are surrounded by are no longer working.

Helen Cottee

Phantom Pain

One of the trickiest things to feel is 'phantom pain'. The pain of something that isn't there anymore, or maybe was never there.

Helen Cottee

The Gift of Crisis

The word crisis stems back to the word 'to sift'. And in this season of personal and relational crisis, I have found myself sifting...

Helen Cottee

Caves

We can have caves in many areas - our identity, our work, our faith, our relationships. We can find these caves by looking at the questions

Helen Cottee

From crying in the bath tub

I did my first major reform when I was 30 and parenting two small kids. I didn't know I was reforming at the time, and I had no map so the p

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Longing

One of the questions I ask clients as they are journeying through the reform process is 'What do you long for?'

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Blessing and Pain

What if this is the perfect mix of blessing and pain to help us evolve into who we were always meant to become?

Helen Cottee

light and shadow - a poem

We are at every moment facing two choices - light or shadow. Be clear that only you can decide which path to take.

Helen Cottee

To those in cages

I know this was pushing you to the edges of yourself before a global pandemic...